Thursday, September 18, 2014
We Started the Conversation...About 20 Years Ago
I'm a huge fan of Slate Magazine. They tend to cover controversial, off-the-beaten-bath topics that we didn't know were controversial and/or find new perspectives for topics that have been exhausted at other news sources. This is why I wasn't all that surprised to see an article titled Spanking is Great for Sex.
"Alright," I thought. "Finally, a mainstream journalist is going to delve into why consensual, adult spanking is so great!"
Yeah, right. It's nice to have hopes and dreams, right?
I clicked on the article and immediately noticed the subheading Which is why it's Grotesque for Parenting. Then I proceeded to read the same old exhaustive argument about why we should never spank children.
I'm not here to advocate for or against the spanking of children. I have my own views on the subject. I've decided to not be an online activist either way, because this blog is about consensual, adult spanking within the confines of a DD marriage. But the subject inevitably comes up every month or so in our community forums, and we spanko adults can't seem to avoid getting into endless debates about whether our fetish is any different than what happens to children.
Apparently, this exhaustive debate never happens outside spanko land. The last line of the Slate article says: "No one is having this conversation. We need to start."
Really? No one is having this conversation?? Not one single person or group of people???
This is one of her opening paragraphs:
"I have a spanking fetish. In my case, that means I like to be spanked, usually with a hand, belt, hairbrush, wooden spoon, switch, or paddle. It sexually gratifies me. I've had submissive fantasies for as long as I can remember, and it's part of my identity. I consider my kink to be my sexual orientation."
So, she's a spanko, right? You would think a fellow spanking enthusiast would at least reference the online spanko community, who have had this conversation about the spanking of children, oh, about a million times since the dawn of the internet (believe me, I've been here for it all.) But, alas, it's as if we are not here. We're invisible, and our conversations don't matter outside of our own little corner of fetish blogland. :(
This really irks me, because I feel that this Slate article was a perfect opportunity for the journalist to introduce the spanko community. It wouldn't be the weirdest or even the most controversial introduction Slate has made. She could have said, no, she is not the only one who loves to be spanked. There are, in fact, many other adults who feel the same way, and they've been having a conversation about whether it's OK to spank children for years. The general populace needs to participate in that conversation with them!
I think we, of all people, would certainly be the most qualified to bring the public into this debate. We, who have had this debate over and over and over again, can probably write down every single argument for or against each side. We've heard it all!
It's sad, because throughout all of this crap going on in the NFL, there is an online community prepped and ready to tell everyone what the difference is between abuse and consent, between childhood spanking and adult spanking, but no one wants to listen to us whackos--not even a fellow spanko journalist herself.