My husband taught me a lesson in respecting him last night :(
Over the weekend, we went grocery shopping together. There are two things wrong with that scenario:
- Grocery shopping on a weekend.
- Grocery shopping with my husband.
It was a madhouse, and I was not in a good mood by the end of the trip. To make matters worse, we decided to go through the self-checkout line, and we both fed cash into the machine at the same time.
After I completed the total by feeding in a $20, my husband continued to put more change into the machine.
"WHAT ARE YOU DOING??? I ALREADY GAVE IT THE FULL AMOUNT!!" I yelled, knowing that it would only spew more change back out at us. And, as we walked out of the store, I would not drop the subject, asking what the heck he was doing putting more change in, and didn't he notice that I had given it the proper amount, and so on and so forth.
I'm not sure why I made such a big deal out of it. I have no excuses. I also did not realize how loud I was and how embarrassed my husband was. Later, when I realized he was upset, I felt really badly about disrespecting him--especially in public.
I apologized, but, in our particular relationship, I knew an "I'm sorry" wasn't going to cut it.
Last night, I paused a TV show we were watching to cuddle with him, and he pulled back and sent me to the bedroom to wait. "Here it comes," I thought.
I was lectured as I went over his lap for my impending doom. I decided early on that I would take it the best I could without squirming, back-talking, or trying to get out of anything. My man is not one for implements, but I knew this was a serious spanking because he used three. He started with his hand, moved to a wooden spatula, and finished with his belt. The belt really hurt. I can't even remember the last time he used it, but it is so whippy and stingy, and it was all I could do not to crawl away and hide.
Afterward, he sent me to the corner and asked me to come up with six things I was going to do to respect him from now on. Then he made me stand in front of him and name them off (this is harder than it sounds--remembering a list of 6 things under pressure!). Here was my list:
- Do what he asks me to do.
- Speak respectfully to him all the time, regardless of my mood.
- Follow the rules he's given me.
- Respect myself--when I respect myself I can better respect him.
- Do nice things for him.
- Ummm...oh my gosh, I can't remember the last one! (Hopefully he isn't reading this!)
He promised a much more severe punishment the next time I disrespect him in public. I think I will set myself up for success and simply avoid grocery shopping with him on the weekend! Why test myself unnecessarily??
I'm sorry Autumn. I've been there before, it's hard when you're in a mood or stressed..not that that's an excuse. I did the same thing the other day, I hung up on my H, I was just so stressed and annoyed..and I took it out on him I'm still waiting for that spanking because I'm sick, but I'm going to try not to fight my way out of it. I'm glad you tried to submit the best you could, and I like his list, but I hope you remember #6 lol Grocery shopping on the weekend or payday friday are a nightmare!
ReplyDeleteOh no, I think we've all been there. It is very hard not to take out negative emotions sometimes. It's always a work in progress, and luckily we have someone to help us along :)
DeleteSounds like a great list, plus I bet it was very effective to read them off to him, in front of him.
ReplyDeleteIt was. It took me a couple tries to remember them all.
DeleteAutumn, I am sorry that this happened. Sometimes everything comes together and then these silly things happen. I think it was good that you apologized and that you were more than ready to accept this spanking. The list was a good idea and I'll try to keep that one in mind, if I ever need one after cornertime :) But the most important bit is that you two could reconnect and that your husband also appreciated your sincere effort to make up for not showing respect to him.
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Nina
I did feel bad, and the list was surprisingly difficult to come up with, since respect for him can be summed up in one all-encompassing "treat him with respect at all times."
DeleteShopping with Barney took me a while to get used to. Because of my injury I have to shop with someone now, and I always get frustrated grocery shopping! I have finally 'mastered' it, so there is hope! ( and by mastered I mean been fortunate enough to not get spanked over shopping for a while now...time will tell how long this lasts)
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willie
Yes, I feel like grocery shopping is the true test of what is needed to make a marriage work! It's like you encounter every negative emotion as you meander through those tiny aisles with heavy carts, bump into unaware shoppers, listen to screaming, complaining children, wait in long lines at the deli. They should start employing marriage counselors at grocery stores on the weekend!
DeleteOh, what a bummer! Screw paddles, what we need is time machines! That way by the time we are doing a facepalm and wondering where our brains were at that moment, we can hit rewind and do it the right way :-)
ReplyDeleteI agree. That would be a a WHOLE different dynamic, haha. Forced to submit to time travel? Sign me up!
DeleteIn my opinion, this is a perfect example of a well deserved spanking as opposed to some other "trivial" things I hear about. It is not about following random rules per say, but showing respect throughout. Respect should be something demonstrated all the time not just in the bedroom.
ReplyDeleteIn full disclosure though, shopping, especially grocery shopping, tests any relationship! LOL Although I still would love to give your husband a high five for giving you that well earned spanking ;)
I agree that it was well-deserved AND that grocery shopping is a true test of patience in a relationship (I always feel bad for parents with small kids). I'm glad that I don't have any trivial rules to follow--gosh, I can hardly imagine keeping track of some of the humongous rules lists here in Blogland.
DeleteI'll tell my husband that you approved.
Auumn you certainly know your place, respect your husband always. I have come to know the meaning of respect through many spankings, I know I am to follow his rules or bare my bottom, I love my husband and know I need my spankings even though I hate my sore bottom afterwards.
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